The importance of therapy, play and empathy

Therapy is really important for children who have been traumatised. Play and multi sensory experiences are also vital. Children need also need to experience a consistent flow of understanding, care, empathy, attunement, kindness, love, affirmation, listening, time, fun, laughter and most importantly safety.

My understanding of government statements regarding the welfare of children seem to make it clear that there are concerns about children’s recovery from trauma and these need to be remembered amongst other pressures for children’s progress. Article 39 of the UNCRC 1989 says that,

‘Article 39, which obliges states to take all appropriate measures to promote the physical and psychological recovery and social reintegration of child victims of violence.’

A central piece of legislation relating to child welfare is The Children Act 1989, which states that the welfare of the child is the paramount consideration in making decisions about children and what the priorities should be regarding their activities.


Therefore for the children who have experienced trauma, releasing them to attend any available therapeutic programme needs to be seen as a priority even amidst the need to achieve educational outcomes because the children will be at a better place to go on and achieve these educational outcomes than if they were present at school and didn’t have the therapy. It is actually a cost effective and a strategic educational decision. Therapy needs to be seen as a priority for children ‘s educational, emotional, social, and mental health if it is available. Sadly at this moment, most schools fear the consequences of ‘unauthorised absences’ for therapy that they feel they cannot justify. They would often rather avoid having to allow children time ‘out of school’ for such interventions. Yet we know how essential it is to intervene with appropriate therapy at the youngest possible age.

Children whose minds are full up with other thoughts and worries about their life outside of school can find it extremely difficult to focus in our classrooms. Their minds might be preoccupied with the struggle of living with abuse… They will have developed learned responses which served them more or less adequately in those situations, but which simply don’t work in schools.’ (Delaney. M. 2009. p24)

As we allow our high tech society to influence our children, so the skills of play that were a normal part of life in the past which are needed to help kids process life, are largely lost. Children need multi sensory experiences to help them work out life. They need to find out about the world and how they fit in it by playing with others.

We need to help schools understand the need for art therapy and play therapy. We also need to help the ‘powers that be’ to understand the mental health benefits of creative arts, playtimes,moral education and spiritual education which are all being pushed out as ‘non essential’….If only they knew the decline in mental health that we will witness soon in our nation unless this academic priority is changed. 

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School needs to be safe; the introduction of Oakside Creative

Traumatised children need therapeutic education centres


As therapists working with children who have experienced different degrees of trauma, we do see encouraging evidence of significant improvement in the children’s lives due to the weekly therapy sessions and the parental intervention that we provide. We have seen the necessary inclusion of parenting lessons, group therapy, art therapy and individual therapy for parents who have children who have experienced trauma. I am however not only continually faced with parents who are struggling but also teachers who are desperately asking for advice about the behaviour of the children in their large classes.

We all know for a child to flourish they need to feel safe all the time. As the parent increases in knowledge, skill and understanding of the needs of the child and as they grow in awareness of how their own issues can adversely affect the child’s healthy development, the children can feel safer at home. This is why we spend time working with the parents too. However, despite the evidenced success of our service, we feel that we cant help but want to be part of the solution to the growing number of children who are finding school too difficult due to their trauma.

Every child spends an average of 6 hours per day in schools. We know that teachers aim for each child to feel safe and enjoy learning, but it is becoming increasingly apparent that teachers can feel unable to consistently facilitate an emotionally safe environment at schools that serve hundreds of pupils from a range of backgrounds, situations and contexts.

 We believe in the provision of schools that focus on emotional safety for children who have experienced trauma.

An average child who has experienced trauma without a strong, consistent, attentive family unit to enable them to process these events, will have to develop some degree of coping mechanisms and will probably be in either a state of anxiety, hypervigilance or will manage their survival in a variety of creative ways due to the flight, fright or freeze survival instinct.

Now lets put these trauma reactions and strong survival feelings into a class with 30 other children all in different contexts themselves and add a teacher who has no training in psychology or trauma who is paid to see evidenced academic outcomes that either affirm his/her skills or cause them to feel a further pressure or failure.

Teachers are under increasing pressure to produce good academic results as if children were all empty boxes that need filling with information. Empathetic teachers are often emotionally exhausted when/if they try and deal with children as individuals with unique complex needs. Yet children who are in trauma will be less likely to be able to fully engage in learning. The brain of the child who is traumatised is chronically engaged in survival mode. Because of this preoccupation with managing risk, the child’s brain’s capacity and opportunities to develop the brains neural networks and systems involved in learning are severely compromised. This makes it hard for the teacher and the student.

Children whose minds are full up with other thoughts and worries about their life outside of school can find it extremely difficult to focus in our classrooms. Their minds might be preoccupied with the struggle of living with abuse… They will have developed learned responses which served them more or less adequately in those situations, but which simply don’t work in schools.’ (Delaney. M. 2009. p24)

We are starting a therapeutic education centre for children who need to feel safe in order to learn. Oakside Creative Education Centre, a new project from the TRC will be a provision for children who need a therapeutic school environment. We will be using multi sensory teaching based in the woods and in an art studio.


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Starting at the beginning: What is Trauma?

Starting at the beginning: What is Trauma?

A simple description of trauma that is that psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security and result in you feeling helpless, alone and vulnerable in a dangerous world.

We often categorize trauma as “big T trauma” and “little T trauma”. This doesn’t at all mean that some traumatic events are undervalued, but helps us understand further the definition of trauma to include things that may not be found within the DSM IV (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) definition.

We are all familiar with examples of big T traumas: sexual abuse and rape, physical or emotional abuse, neglect, natural disasters, war experiences, car accidents. Little t traumas can be just as damaging, especially because they tend to occur over time, and build upon each other. Examples would be ongoing experiences of shame, humiliation, being lImageeft out, being harassed/ stalked, being bullied or ridiculed. All traumatic experiences affect how we experience the world around us, and our relationships with other people.

When there is a strong support system working around the person who has experienced trauma, this can help to stop the impact being so detrimental and these relationships can allow a natural recovery to occur if there is consistency in the love, trust and emotional engagement. However, the likelihood is that the traumatic event has impacted more than just the one person, and the ripples have influenced the wider support network. This is where therapy can play a vital part in helping people to recover from the impact of traumatic events.

Time alone does not heal all wounds, no matter what people say. The traumatic memory becomes stuck, like a heavy load lodged into the subconscious that informs and influences our decisions, desires and futures.


When we don’t allow time for the healing and recovery from trauma, that person carries around a subconscious load that weighs them down, changes their perception of life and can cause health problems. To process the trauma enables a person to heal and the mess that has been made in the heart of the person who has experienced the pain, can even be redeemed to become a message of hope for others.

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A new blog

Hi there,

This is our new blog site! We want to pack this site out with helpful blogs that enable you to understand more about the recovery from trauma. We will have some guest blogs and the majority of blogs will be written by the Director of the TRC who has many qualifications and years of experience in being a trauma therapist.

We hope it helps you!

Let us know if it does! img_6764.jpg

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